It doesn’t sound to me like it would occur to you to buy her flowers. I think that you want to be given flowers. If you were in a lesbian relationship, you probably would expect your girlfriend to bring your flowers.
If you ever get yourself up to doing it, make it a special occasion to buy yourself flowers. It really is fun and frivolous. And it is a nice feeling to see them. Very different from being given flowers (I’ve only ever been given flowers by one person who wasn’t a prom date, relative, or someone sending me condolences b/c I was sick), but it’s still nice. The whole idea of loving yourself, etc. Take the time, trouble, and money to buy something nice for yourself. Maybe even go to a few stores if the first few aren’t good enough. And buy some for your friends. *smiles* It will make them happy that you were thinking enough of them to do it. Try not to think of it as not having someone else to buy you the flowers – you DO have someone to buy you the flowers. Yourself! You can do it. You’ve got the money and the time to stop in the store and spend $10 on yourself. (And you won’t feel guilty for buying flowers like you will if you stop and buy a box of chocolates instead.. not that I’d know anything about that, though *whistles innocently*)
I always want people to buy me flowers. I remember my first flowers very clearly. They were my most romantic and my most surprising *grins* I often don’t get them for myself because it’s “such a waste” to buy flowers. They’ll die. If I don’t have visitors over, no one will even see them. But then I started equating that with the whole idea of saving your best earrings for special occasions.
I really hate touching garbage. I know what you mean about not doing it. In my house, D’s usually the one running out when he hears the garbage truck. Are you sure that’s a gender role thing? Garbage is icky. *grins* of course, I’ve been told that as girls we’re supposed to find more things icky than boys.
Next time you visit, I won’t make you take out the garbage while you’re here. I promise.
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Date: 2003-08-28 03:00 pm (UTC)If you ever get yourself up to doing it, make it a special occasion to buy yourself flowers. It really is fun and frivolous. And it is a nice feeling to see them. Very different from being given flowers (I’ve only ever been given flowers by one person who wasn’t a prom date, relative, or someone sending me condolences b/c I was sick), but it’s still nice. The whole idea of loving yourself, etc. Take the time, trouble, and money to buy something nice for yourself. Maybe even go to a few stores if the first few aren’t good enough. And buy some for your friends. *smiles* It will make them happy that you were thinking enough of them to do it. Try not to think of it as not having someone else to buy you the flowers – you DO have someone to buy you the flowers. Yourself! You can do it. You’ve got the money and the time to stop in the store and spend $10 on yourself. (And you won’t feel guilty for buying flowers like you will if you stop and buy a box of chocolates instead.. not that I’d know anything about that, though *whistles innocently*)
I always want people to buy me flowers. I remember my first flowers very clearly. They were my most romantic and my most surprising *grins* I often don’t get them for myself because it’s “such a waste” to buy flowers. They’ll die. If I don’t have visitors over, no one will even see them. But then I started equating that with the whole idea of saving your best earrings for special occasions.
I really hate touching garbage. I know what you mean about not doing it. In my house, D’s usually the one running out when he hears the garbage truck. Are you sure that’s a gender role thing? Garbage is icky. *grins* of course, I’ve been told that as girls we’re supposed to find more things icky than boys.
Next time you visit, I won’t make you take out the garbage while you’re here. I promise.
*huggles*